Are your friends good for you?

I feel good about myself when I am working with this team!

I hope this message finds you well and feeling fully loved after Valentine’s Day!

Whether by an intimate partner, your family and friends, or a new found way to accept yourself, this juncture of the year provides an opportunity to analyze how much love flows in and out of your being. The question primarily is: How much self-love (or even self-like) is present in you? A good way to evaluate whether those around you are good for you or not is to observe whether you like who you are when with them, or if you find your more frustrated or darker side coming out.

You’ll notice that when around certain people, you feel smarter, more attractive, and peaceful. When with others, you may feel less intelligent or inferior. Perhaps you feel you are always in survival mode, in constant resistance or defensiveness.

Choosing which friends or family members to be around has little to do with what you think of them. It has to do with what you think of yourself when you are around them. Tap in and take note. If your body and mind feel relaxed and comfortable, your thoughts and contributions will flow easily. If you’re on guard, your body will constrict, and your gifts, your better thoughts, and your health will not flow smoothly.

Our relationships are directional indicators (act as compasses) for showing us when we are getting closer or getting further away from alignment with our core truths and authenticity. It’s like playing the “you’re getting hotter, you’re getting colder” game. When in alignment, your core essence and gifts for the world will come out more often until they become your way of life. Here, doors open and abundance flows to you as effortlessly as breathing in and out.

Find the calm and you’ll find the love.